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Knowledge is a beautiful thing, but the
using of knowledge in a good way is what makes for wisdom. Learning how to
use knowledge in a sacred manner, that's wisdom to me. And to me, that is
what a true Elder is.
This brings us straight to the question, "Does A. A. have a real leadership? Most emphatically the answer is "Yes, notwithstanding the apparent lack of it." Let's turn again to the deposed founder and his friends. What becomes of them? As their grief and anxiety wear away, a subtle change begins. Ultimately, they divide into two classes known in A.A. slang as "elder statesmen" and "bleeding deacons." The elder statesman is the one who sees the wisdom of the group's decision, who holds no resentment over his reduced status, whose judgment, fortified by considerable experience, is sound, and who is willing to sit quietly on the sidelines patiently awaiting developments. The bleeding deacon is one who is just as surely convinced that the group cannot get along without him, who constantly connives for reelection to office, and who continues to be consumed with self-pity. A few hemorrhage so badly that - drained of all A.A. spirit and principal - they get drunk. At times the A.A.
landscape seems to be littered with bleeding forms. Nearly every old timer
in our Society has gone through this process in some degree. Happily, most
of them survive and live to become elder statesmen. They become the real
and permanent leadership in A.A. Theirs is the quiet opinion, the sure
knowledge and humble example that resolve a crisis. When sorely perplexed,
the group inevitably turns to them for advice. They become the voice of
the group conscience; in fact, these are the true voice of Alcoholics
Anonymous. They do not drive by mandate; they lead by example. This is the
experience which has led us to the conclusion that our group conscience,
well-advised by its elders, will be in the long run wiser than any single
leader.
Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions pgs. 134&135 Reprinted with permission A.A.W.S. Grandfather give us wisdom so we may serve as elders.
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